How NOT to Teach Meditation to Kids!

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Along a road in beautiful Penang, Malaysia 🙂

Hello Friends!

I took this photo along a winding mountain road in beautiful Penang, Malaysia. As the driver took us through the lush tropical landscape, I was free to gaze out the open window at the life in the jungle, then out across the sea as we continued. I could feel the wind blowing across my face, and I was entranced at the different speeds of everything going by depending on where I focused my attention–you know, if you look down at the land close to the car, it appears very fast, whereas if you raise your vision up and look out into the distance, you feel things are moving slowly or almost still, yet you are moving very fast.

As we drove, I remembered this kind of experience as a child–going for rides in the car–and just loving it.  I smiled to myself and drifted off into a floating meditation where my mind and soul flowed out over the sea and into the sky and journeyed into the awesome nature surrounding me, and of which, we are all a part.

That meditation was not a goal oriented step by step process like my Book and 5 Steps System.  It was a different kind of meditation–one that I would experience as a child often times when driving through any area where nature was very present.  If there were many people in the car, I would always try to sit by the window because I always looked forward to that experience of meditation, even though I didn’t know what meditation was or that I could call that experience “meditation” 🙂

So, how was your week?  I hope it was full of meditation, great surprises, growth, and development!

I know it was for many of you because you shared it with me–thank you!

I love hearing about your experiences, challenges, decisions, and victories!  What you share always gives a special insight into the power of meditation and taking action in that spirit.

One topic that came up this week was teaching children how to meditate and the question of whether or not this or that is meditation.  This blends perfectly with today’s Question of the Week…

Here it is:  How do I teach my child to meditate?

Well, first let’s consider How NOT to teach your child how to meditate 🙂  Being clear about this can save lots of time, effort, and energy, and make the whole process a kind of beautiful mutual learning experience between two human beings, rather than a old model approach where a “teacher” or learned person teaches a “student” or an unlearned person something they know little or nothing about.

FIRST: Make sure that you don’t project any limits or complicated notions onto your child or young person. For instance, you might have learned a particular approach to meditation, or read something about meditating this way or that way–you know, maybe using a special breathing technique or sitting in a certain way, doing a yoga position, or focusing on clearing your mind, etc. etc.

All these can be fine aspects to learn, but they can also be obstacles to meditation if not placed in the proper context of learning. So, instead of starting with specific do’s and don’ts or special techniques, consider the power of observing children in a meditative state (any kind of meditative state) and then pointing out that “this is meditation”.

When a person realizes what meditation is from their own experience and being and that they have already done it, it is much easier to build by learning more about meditation and different ways to meditate and how to use meditation for specific purposes.

For example, you can meditate to: manifest your dreams, create wellness, to heal, create peace of mind, relax, transform your body-mind-spirit-emotions-relationships, create wealth, prosperity, abundance, and more.

Remember, briefly:

Meditation is a spectrum of states of consciousness, a range of states of mind and of being.

Meditation is a special state of consciousness that is more unified that your state before meditating.

Meditation is a way of connecting with your soul, your inner being, spirit, or consciousness.

Meditation is practice of oneness and wholeness within you, and of your being with all things.

And meditation is more. 🙂 (more on this later).

SECOND: Realize that this young human being has already meditated quite successfully, perhaps in the way that I describe above during a car ride, maybe sitting quietly on the beach or in a park, or in those moments before falling asleep or before fully waking up, or in a thousand other possible ways (I plan to make this the topic of a future newsletter–ways we meditate but might not know it).

One of the most powerful ways to teach anything is to simply point out how the person has already achieved the goal, performed the task or practice, already has the knowledge, or already has valuable experience and success in the area of focus–meditation in this case.

This is almost always the case and it is the teacher who can wisely point this out so that children do not view meditation as an area of knowledge or a practice or skill that is external to themselves, but rather as something that is already part of who they are, now we are just giving it a name, sweet and simple.

Think about it–what is meditation to you? Can you expand your view of meditation? Do you see that maybe you also have a deeper knowledge and understanding of meditation when you look at your own experience?

Now, have a thoughtful look at your child’s experience and see if you can point out and then appreciate together that:  this is meditationor that experience we just had was meditation…

This can be lots of fun and illuminating about the need and even natural tendency to meditate as human beings–young human beings included!

Then, build from there, build from strength to strength, from one experience to a greater experience.

And remember, recognizing that children are already meditating doesn’t mean that everything is meditation, it is not. Also it doesn’t mean that you can’t teach them special ways to meditate, you can. It is just much easier and more powerful to recognize that this is already in us, all of us, children and adults.

From here, teaching children my SEA Meditation (See, Experience, Act) method also introduced in my 5 Steps bookis super fun and kids can tap into it easily and use throughout their lives.

Meditation is a super power in us all that we can learn to use to transform our lives into abundant and flourishing expressions of love, strength, service, prosperity, joy and of bringing health and happiness to the world.

Until next week…sending you love and meditation for a Happy, Healthy, Wealthy YOU!

Ben

My latest book on meditation here…

A collaborative project on Natural Healing here…

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